“The Let Them Theory” review

There’s nothing radically new in Mel Robbins’ book “The Let Them Theory: A life-changing tool millions of people can’t stop talking about.” What it offered me is immediately applicable summations of Stoic philosophy (which she acknowledges) and sometimes just hearing stories and how letting go is the ultimate way to change one’s own reality.

My daughter Noemi, 9, was having a friend Emma over at our house. Society deems that we get dressed when facing the outside world. Noemi wanted to stay in her pajamas. At first I pleaded, “Your friend is coming over. You should change into the clothes you want to wear for the day.”

“But I’m comfortable,” she said.

Having just read Mel’s book, I heard the words "Let them” or “let her” and just realized Noemi is 9. I’m glad she is making decisions for herself. It really doesn’t affect anything if she wears the same clothes she slept. Emma didn’t notice and they had a great day together.

"The Let Them Theory” offers advice about relationships, friendships and how unfulfilled dreams are often at the heart of everyone’s issues. It reminds me of “The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself” by Michael Singer, a book that shows that letting go is the key to feeling more satisfied in life. And, of course, it all goes back to “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” the core self-help book by Stephen Covey, that masterfully summarizes principles that lead to success and more fulfilling life. A key takeaway is that one must improve oneself before trying to change everyone and leading by example will eventually rub off on others.

Robbins book offers the same advice and adds on the simple phrases of saying “let down” as a powerful tool to enact these principles. And sometimes actually putting philosophy into action is what makes a difference.